No matter your age or general dance skills, attempting to dance sexy for the first time can make you feel incredibly awkward.
It's normal to feel a sense of shame when even thinking about dancing sexy, let alone doing it!
In order to break that mindset and start dancing sexy, you HAVE to build your confidence step-by-step.
Check out our guide below and learn how to let your inner goddess out.
1. Get In The Mood
If you want to dance sexy, you have to be in the moment.
You’re just not gonna look sexy if you’re thinking about your grocery list while you dance.
Before you get on your feet to start dancing, prep yourself by getting in your sexiest mindset by practicing some self-care!
Put on your best smokey eye, slip into that dress that makes you feel like a femme fatale, and take yourself out on a date for the night.
Jadalyn Estrada, a dancer who’s challenging herself with sexy dance classes on STEEZY, even adjusts the look of her bedroom to help set the mood.
“If you feel awkward, it’s okay,” Jadalyn says, “dim the lights, light that favorite candle of yours… whatever makes you feel comfortable!”
You see, love is more than a feeling. It’s a practice.
So show yourself some love before you start dancing – once you get moving, you’ll already feel amazing.
2. Pick Your Persona
The sexiest dancers channel a unique personality that draws you into their performance.
But if you met those dancers in person, you might find that their real life personality is totally different!
Playing a character can help you lose yourself in the moment and avoid getting too hung up on the moves.
To pick a persona, watch plenty of sexy dance videos and see what attracts you most!
Watch this video from Aliya Janell.
Pretty fierce right? She uses hard-hitting movements, high-energy songs, and more serious facial expressions to come off like a powerful lioness.
Now compare Aliya's video to this one from KAYDAY.
Here, the dancers used fluid movements, a slower song, and more expressive facials (they mouth the lyrics, make eye contact, and even smirk) to create a more sensual feel.
There’s no “right” or “wrong” way to do it. Just decide what you think looks sexy to you, and then try stepping into that character.
If your persona is playful, you might wink, use bouncier movements, and play with your hair while you dance.
If you’re more drawn to a fierce persona, practice your best “bad b*tch” face in the mirror.
As you get familiar with your sexy persona, you’ll find yourself focusing less on your insecurities and more on having fun.
3. Master a Few Moves
Rather than trying to memorize a bunch of choreography, you wanna focus on learning a few singular moves that you can always count on.
They should be simple enough that they work with just about any sexy song, and basic enough that you can add variations to them to fit your sexy persona.
A few examples?
The Hip Roll
The Booty Dip
The Sexy Walk
Moves like these are easy to master because they don’t involve a lot of complicated footwork or difficult techniques.
If you’re looking for some basics to get started with, try taking a few classes online!
Online classes are the perfect way to learn sexy moves because you don’t have to worry about people watching you during the class – you get all of the guidance and none of the stress.
If you wanna learn the moves mentioned above (and more!), try our Sexy, Single Move Class Series on STEEZY Studio.
It’s the perfect sexy dance move starter pack for beginners.
4. Practice Your Performance
If you want to look sexy while you dance, you have to practice performing for yourself.
The sexiest dancers end up looking so good because they’re not just doing dance moves… they’re putting on a show!
First, make a playlist of your favorite songs, and find a good place to practice.
If you don’t have full length mirror already, check out this video to learn how to create your own little dance studio, right at home.
You can also use the front facing camera on your computer to watch and record yourself, or use the camera mode feature while taking a STEEZY Studio class!
Once you find a place, just turn your music up and START DANCING.
You don’t need to put together any fancy choreography. Just do what comes to you in the moment and watch yourself as you move.
You’ll start to notice that certain movements and facial expressions look as good as they feel.
And some might not work! That’s ok!
The point of watching yourself in the mirror isn’t to nail every move.
The point is to give yourself an opportunity to see yourself and realize how good you actually look!
As you watch yourself improve, your confidence levels will start growing from within.
5. Commit to Your Sexiest Self
So, you’ve spent some time dancing in the mirror and you’re falling in love with your new sexy dance skills… so what comes after love?
Commitment! Lock it down boo!
The final step to becoming a truly sexy dancer is being comfortable letting people witness you in all your glory.
For most people, this can seem like the toughest step, but think about this way:
At this point, you know you look good.
You know you feel good.
You know that you have plenty of moves under your belt that anyone would appreciate.
So take yourself out to the club with your best friends, or bring your significant other into the room to not only watch you dance, but dance with you.
And when you do… GO. FULL. OUT.
Follow through on every movement! Every hair flip! Every look!
If you feel a little awkward at any moment, remind yourself that you can just focus on playing your sexy character and keep on moving.
Dancing sexy is mostly about feeling sexy – and once you feel it, everyone else will too.
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